It is a usual practice for most of us to give gifts during special occasions. Say for instance, if you are going to attend a wedding celebration, it is often expected that you would bring with you a gift for the wedding celebrants. Likewise, it has been a custom in most cultures that we give gifts during birthday and Christmas. Gifts are often expected because the occasions call for gifts. However, I would like to distinguish between the concepts of “gift” and “present.” I would say that the concept of a “present” has a deeper implication than the concept of a “gift.” A gift can strengthen relationship but it may be not healing. But a present usually has a deeper implication. It also strengthens relationships, but it likewise heals and it is a symbol of gratuity or thankfulness. For this reason, a present entails a lot of effort because it is intended to heal, strengthen, to nourish, and to show our thankfulness for someone whom we love and whose relationships we value so much. Hence, the next time we buy someone a thing, we can then distinguish easily if it is a gift or a present.
Is the Gift that You Give to your Wife a Present?
Gauging from the definition of gift and present and the distinction that I have made earlier between these two concepts, we could say that once you give something to your wife, you are giving her a present. Yes, indeed! I would say a present is not dependent on who we are going to give. It is based on the intention that we have in giving a gift. A simple gift can become a present if your intention falls under the categories enumerated above. Yet, you may be giving your wife the best anniversary gift for her, but it doesn’t fall under the concept of a “present” because you feel obligated to give that gift.
Which is Better a Present or a Gift?
Sometimes, I can’t help but think that this distinction between a gift and a present doesn’t exist in your mind before you have read this article. I myself didn’t know this distinction before. As to which is more important, I could definitely say that in matters of relationship, a “present” is of higher value than a “gift,” although a gift may also be a “present.” Yet, in matters of conventions created by cultures, I would say that gifts have their own value and importance. However, a gift attains the status of a present when we freely give the gift to make the other person happy. There are many people in our lives but there are only very few people whose relationships we truly value. These people are worthy of receiving a present from us. Gifts can play a role in our social relationships with our acquaintances. Yet, in matters of valuable relationships, we should always try to strengthen these relationships by our “presents.” Presents and gifts may refer to the same material things. Yet, the worth and value of the two may have different levels.